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Reset Your Reference Points

How do we get over the annoying feature of our mind that decides to judge ourselves against relative versus absolute reference points? Please read this post if you feel confused about reference points! Let’s talk about how to reset your reference points to help you become genuinely happier. Reference Points Quick reminder, this annoying feature of our mind is the one that compares ourselves, our successes, our dreams, against others and not against what we care about or seek internally. These reference points are affecting our happiness levels, without us even realizing it. We use other people’s lives, social media, …

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Annoying Features of the Mind Part 2

Welcome to Annoying Features of the Mind Part 2. Last post, we discussed the first two annoying features; miswanting and absolute vs relative reference points. We left off within the topic of reference points. Specifically, social comparison. Social Comparison To review, social comparison is the act of evaluating yourself. Whatever it is; salary, possessions, abilities, beauty, and grades. Whatever it is, relative to other people. We discussed this in relationship to salary in the last post. If we are going to use reference points, we should at least use reasonable ones. But our minds just don’t do that. Our minds, …

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Annoying Features of the Mind

Welcome to week 3 of my cliff notes version of The Science Of Well-Being online course. This week will also be broken down into 2 or 3 parts. Let’s get right into discussing annoying features of the mind, shall we? Last week we discussed some misconceptions of happiness. All these things we care about, that we think will make us happy, are not actually making us happy, or at least not as happy as we think. And today, we’re going to walk through why that is. Annoying Feature # 1 Why are our expectations so wrong? Why do we think …