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Lessons from the Past 3 Weeks

Lessons

Well my previous post should have went live last week, but there was a glitch and it just got posted. So this post may seem out of context if you read in order.

I keep apologizing on social media for not being as present as I was. None of you may care, but I do. Writing blog posts lights a fire in my stomach, I think I could do it all day. Instagram, not so much. Mostly because I know there are so many more people that will see my content. I struggle with that because I don’t know if I am crossing any professional lines. Co-workers and patients are less likely to find my blog than my IG. Mostly I don’t want co-workers judging me. Facebook is a little awkward. I feel like I just keep posting and no one interacts. I need to find ways to improve engagement.

But back to the point of this post.

The reason I am feeling like I need to apologize is because I want to be here, for any of the readers that need to hear…. (read?) what I am saying. When I am not consistently present, I am am not helping you. But I also lose touch with what I am trying to learn as well.

I have written 20 pieces of content (most in the 1200 word count) in less than 3 weeks. While working full time! Twenty pieces may not seem like a lot to some people. But each post takes an average 2-3 hours for me. That may sound pathetic but I want to deliver good content and not regurgitated posts from other writers.

Besides the fun facts and tid bits of information I have learned from researching and writing posts on various topics, I want to share the 3 things I have learned in the past 3 weeks.

My lessons from the last 3 weeks

  • Say yes to yourself
  • How to put stress and anxiety management into action
  • Sell yourself
  • Stand up for what you believe in
  • There is a lot of poorly written content on the internet
  • The internet is amazing

Say yes to yourself.

Creating a blog had been on my mind for well over a year. I toyed with many different ideas. Should it be related to Physical Therapy? Personal Development? Running? CrossFit? I could not decide.

Honestly, I still don’t think I have decided. But as I continue to write and learn. I am discovering more about what excites me.

Then one day I said yes to the darn thing and I started this blog.

And from this yes, I found a love for blogging, a way to make extra money by writing for others, and I have opened a lot of new opportunities for me. My writing ain’t perfect. I have to google A LOT of words and grammatical advice. But I am learning and to me, it is a blast.

So say yes to yourself, and doors will open.

How to put stress and anxiety management into action.

Go back to several of my previous posts and you will read about shifting your mindset, decreasing stress and anxiety, getting rid of icky feelings.

So I said yes again to myself. And with this yes, I am in an online class centered around personal development and learning to feel your feeling instead of trying to numb them out (with whatever coping mechanism you choose).

This class started 3 weeks ago. Luckily….or ironically…. for me, the past 3 weeks have been the most opportune time to practice feeling my feelings of stress and anxiety.

While I was not perfect, I was a heck of a lot better than I would have been previously. What is working for me and my stress and anxiety? Ignoring my mind and tapping into my body:

  • What are the physical signs of stress or anxiety I am feeling?
  • What does this feel like?
  • Breathe into these areas of the body where physical manifestations of your feelings are presenting.
  • Recognize that they are feelings and they do not have to dictate my actions.
  • Know that it is okay to be with these feeling as they demonstrate how hard of a worker I am, how passionate I am, that I stick to my word.

This then allows me to accurately deal with whatever it is that may be stressing me. In the past 3 weeks this included getting the content done on time for buyers while giving my dogs, family, and friends the attention they deserve. I made peace knowing that my house would not be deep cleaned and that I was not going to make extravagant meals.

Now that I don’t have 5 orders in my queue I can enjoy these things again!

Sell yourself.

Jose kept telling me I need to up my prices. But I thought I had done my research….. by looking at one other person’s prices…..whoops! For the past 3 weeks I have charged nearly less than half of what others charge. Ouch! But at the same time, this allowed me to gain a lot of experience and some amazing reviews.

Since I am just starting out, I did not think I was worth charging more for my services. Selling myself is an issue in a lot of areas of my life, even as a Physical Therapist. I avoided dealing with the fact that I should be charging more by not letting myself check the prices of others.

It is without a doubt, a self-confidence issue. I am working on this. Self-confidence does not come as easy to me as working through my stress and anxiety. But I am now realizing my work is worth it (as well as the hours of sleep I have lost.)

The only person putting me down is myself.

Stand up for what you believe in.

I was asked to write an article about Speed Keto. If you have not heard of it, it combines Keto with Intermittent Fasting. Now I know people that have had great success with Keto and Intermittent Fasting, when done separately. I am not saying anything bad about these 2 diets. If they are working for you that is awesome!

Speed Keto requires you to eat one Keto meal a day. That is it. Nothing else. I believe with Intermittent Fasting you can eat within a certain time frame, not just all in one meal.

Even worse than eating only one high fat meal a day, you look on these Facebook pages and people have pictures of timers posted, showing that it has been 60+ hours since they last ate!

I could not write this article. I tried. But it triggered to much crap from my past. Luckily I finally stood up for myself and told the buyer I could not do it and much to my surprise he was very kind about it.

If I had not done that, I probably would have continued to be sick to my stomach about it.

I apologize if you are on the Speed Keto diet. If it works for you then I am so happy for you, I just could not do it because it feels like it would trigger a cascade of difficult thoughts and emotions related to my eating disorder.

As soon as I stood up for what I believed in, a weight was lifted off my shoulders.

There is a lot of poorly written content on the internet.

Jeeze louise! I am not saying I am an expert or a walking encyclopedia, but I have read a lot of content on the internet in the last 3 weeks.

Honestly, I should have been an editor. Throughout college and grad school I was such a slow learner and I think this is because I would find imperfections in the flow of the writing. If headers, sub-headers, and bullet points were not continuously related, it bugged the crap out of me (do we throw that under the OCD tendency category?)

Same with paragraphs. If there was not a smooth transition into the next paragraph, I wanted to write the author and tell them how to make it better. I see these issues all over the internet.

But, putting all flow and organization out of the picture, some people just do not take the time to ensure all typos are corrected. I know I am not perfect here, but this is also more of a personal journal. If and when I write content for educational purposes, you bet I am triple checking everything.

Lastly, a lot of people put their opinion out there without using research to back it up. Which is totally okay. Simply remember, what you are reading may be opinions and if you do not agree, that does not make you wrong, just continue to read other content, and perhaps look for some with evidence or research to back up the opinion.

This blog is made up of my own opinion and interpretation of what I am learning through my life…. well my young adult life. But when possible I include links to other sources to better explain what I am saying.

I am not saying opinions are bad. They are great to share, just know, there may be more to something that one person’s opinion.

The internet is amazing.

The ability of the internet to teach and to connect us is astonishing. In a time where human contact has decreased, I have been able to help people in Australia, Romania, on the East Coast, and any where in between.

My online class has connected me to very similar minded people, from California to Canada and into the UK. I have met people that struggle with the exact same issue, just slightly different twist and turns in their stories.

This brings two different types of tears to my eyes. One because I am so sad that these beautiful women feel similar feelings as to what I felt in the past, I would never wish that on anyone. These lovely ladies are hurting and they don’t deserve too. And the other tears are tears of happiness, fullness, bliss, and excitement for the opportunity to work with and meet this strong group of women, for joining them on this journey to better ourselves.

The internet also allows me to better speak my mind and helps others that may be in the same situation. The internet brings me closer to all of you reading. If you are reading, leave me a comment. Let me know what you want to learn more about.

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